Five Minute Friday: Mess

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Mess…

If you’ve noticed, there haven’t been a lot of blog entries in the last couple months. It’s not because I don’t have enough to write about.  I definitely do.  But life has just been a bit of a mess lately, and I’ve been in that “I keep spinning, and I’m not sure what way to get off to make the most efficient exit” mode.

My house is a disaster (not that it’s a new thing)

I’m dealing with a bit of a wave of my post-natal depression again (medicated, but I’m worried I may need a boost on it)

I feel like I’m falling behind at work (partially due to the depression)

We’ve had some financial hits with vet bills and car accidents lately, wearing me down mentally.

So yeah… things are a mess.  And I need to start picking things up.  The problem is that I just don’t quite know where to start.  My husband has his ideas – he’s more of a project person.  Clean out the basement, clean out the garage, etc.  I’m more of a maintenance person – get the kitchen scrubbed, get the laundry done.  I have a hard time seeing the projects until the maintenance is done.  He’s the opposite.

So what are we doing?  Sitting around because we’re both overwhelmed and not getting ANY of it done.

And of course – the mess is definitely not going to take care of itself, unless by taking care of itself means it just keeps creeping and growing.

I’d originally planned on going up to Celebration of Needlework tomorrow to escape with friends for a day of stitching, but a combination of factors have nixed that idea.  Maybe it’s just that internal nudge to get me focusing on the mess.  Get a little of it done – anything.  Just start somewhere.  Feel accomplished that one thing’s off the list.

Maybe then I won’t feel so blocked, and can get back to writing.  And stitching.  And feeling a bit better.  Which will lead me to getting more of the mess done… and the positive cycle will continue.

I don’t need perfect.  I’m never going to be the Martha Stewart homemaker, nor do I want to be.  But I’d like to reign in the crazy a little bit… just a little bit.

I guess it’s time to grab the trash bag and the broom and get to it then…

8 comments

  1. britt says:

    I have been there more often than I would like to admit. My only suggestion is to choose one thing that would make you feel accomplished (scrub that kitchen) and one that would make him feel accomplished (basement) and dedicate X hours to each one day. So maybe 2 hours in each place. That way you are dedicating time to both and still getting what you need. Good luck!

  2. Carol says:

    As others have said, I’ve been there… a LOT. Not the post partum bit but the “this place is a mess” bit. And like you, I see the maintenance before the project — as evidenced by the fact that my office has been in a state of chaos for over 10 years and the basement still has several hunderd pounds of books still in boxes from a move over 30 years ago! Husband would just throw all of that away — but I have to sort first, and I can’t motivate on that fron before I get the pantry reorganized adn the fridge cleaned and… and… and…

    Hugs — it will work out.

  3. Marcy says:

    I hate that feeling of ‘where to start first’. Not sure I have any advise to share but loads of sympathy.

  4. Robin says:

    What a wonderful honest and open post! It is hard to get a handle on it at times. I agree with one of the posters above about you picking something and your husband picking something and tackle it for 1-2 hours. Then either pick a new task or continue with the same the next day and so on until it is finished.

  5. Annette - CaliforniaStitcher says:

    Gezz! You certainly are not the only one of where to start! Well I selected one project in house and one out of the house. I work each day (when its not hot) on one section on the backyard – pulling weeds and replanting. Then inside I pick one room and start in one corner then move on.
    basically thats what the above comments suggested. One project each. Or pick one project and both you work on it! I tell myself – Just Do It!
    love Annette

  6. Elizabeth says:

    Yes! My husband and I are exactly like this, too. I wonder if it is gender-based at all, or if it’s just related to who does more of the maintenance stuff around the house on a regular basis? Anyway, I think you’re right about just having to choose one small area and get moving on it. What I hate is clearing off an area, leaving the room for a minute, and coming back to find someone has piled more “stuff” in the spot I just cleaned. Aaaargh!

  7. Joanne P says:

    Sorry you’ve been having a hard time of it all. PND is so awful. Can you book a long break from work and just cocoon with your baby for a few weeks?

    I think little and often is the key to overwhelming jobs. We tidied my son’s pit of a bedroom over the Easter Holidays, 10 minutes per day and the job got done. It looks amazing now!

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